Alone or lonely? There is a difference

Thomas Sander, in his Social Capitol blog, has a great link to a book and Boston Globe interview with the author of a new book on loneliness in America.  The book, written by John Cacioppo, is titled Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection . The blog makes this highlight points about the health and life impacts of loneliness in America:

  • The lonely sleep less well and less efficiently.
  • The lonely can’t think as clearly.
  • The lonely were more likely to describe a gadget anthropomorphically and the lonely were more likely to believe in the supernatural (e.g., God, angels or miracles), and believed in the supernatural more when they were feeling lonely.
  • Lonely people had higher levels of chronic inflammation, a condition associated with heart and artery disease, arthritis, Alzheimer’s and other illnesses.

Choosing to spend time alone, or live alone, can be equally beneficial and the research shows there is a strong need for human connection.  The Boston Globe article paraphrases Cacioppo by writing:

Moving to a new town or being single can open the door to loneliness, but it turns out it isn’t just a matter of being alone. Indeed, the lonely don’t spend any more time by themselves than the rest of us do. Real loneliness is a feeling that some essential connection is lacking, and while social circumstances matter, it’s also partly genetic.

Choosing to live alone — and live healthy — requires maintaining contact with friends, and building relationships with confidants.  While it may seem helpful to amass a few dozen, or few hundred, “friends” on Facebook, being alone, but not lonely, means having real connections and doing things to keep the essential connection to your land, your home, and to some community.

Gardening question: Cucumbers

Why won’t my cucumber plants produce fruits?

You may just need to be patient. Cucumbers, like squash, pumpkins, watermelons, cantaloupes, and many other plants, produce male and female flowers separately on the same plant. They often begin producing male flowers several weeks before the females appear. The males make pollen and are necessary, but they do not produce fruits. Look to see if there is a little cucumber behind the flower. If you see a baby cucumber, you have a female flower. If you just see a slender stem going right up to the back of the flower, you have a male flower. If your plants have female flowers and the fruits still aren’t setting, be sure that the plants are not excessively dry. The leaves may wilt on hot days, but they should recover as the temperature drops in the evening. If they are still wilted by morning, you are not watering them enough, or you are watering too shallowly and too often. Excessive nitrogen fertilization also could be a problem. If the nutrients are unbalanced, the flowers will drop. Also, if there are no bees to pollinate your cucumber flowers, you will have to transfer pollen from the male flowers to the female flowers by hand. Use a cotton swab or soft-bristle paintbrush to transfer pollen.

From The Old Farmer’s Almanac.

Accidental orchard yields fall apples

While walking Two Mile Ranch today, I worked my way to the far east fence, then walked the county, grade B (as in “barely graded”) road that is the south border of the ranch.  I know I’ve walked this road every week that I’ve lived here, but I must not have done this often in the fall.

When I looked into the trees, mixed in with the expected green walnuts hanging from the walnut trees, was a collection of red dots against the dimpled light on the leaves.  I’ve never seen it before today:

A lone apple tree on the steep hill that is quickly eroding into the washout stream below.

It lives in the thick of the brush and on a steep enough slope that the deer leave most of them alone.

I picked a few for the rest of my walk, and then came back later in the day with a bucket to collect some for snacking this month.

Five things you should know about living in solitude

Our friends over at Wise Bread post they wish to redefine retirement.  They write (formatting theirs)

Retirement [ri-tahyuhr-muhnt]: The act of retiring or the state of being retired; removal or withdrawal from service, office, or business.

You go to school.
You get a good job/career.
You work for forty years or so.
In the meantime, you find a soul mate, marry, buy a house, have kids, and live happily ever after. The kids grow up and move out.

Then you retire.

Their post is timely.  Even though Wise Bread writes “you find a soul mate”, an alternative  is a life of solitude It’s a choice that some Small Farm Life.com readers live.

Being alone doesn’t mean being lonely. Loneliness and alone-ness are two different experiences. There are excellent books written by authors who chose to live a small farm life solo, see them in the sidebar.

Living solo means making friends who are willing to help. There are just some tasks around a farm that take more than one person.  It’s great to have friends, even great to have friends who aren’t afraid to work and are willing to pitch in when you need them. Small farm etiquette implies you will do the same and return the favor.

Being alone is important for everyone, especially for creative people and “thinkers” its a critical part of the process.  Sleep is a period of being alone, and sleep is often where solutions to problems are found (aka “just sleep on it”).

Be ready for raised eyebrows.  Even though more than 50% of the households in the country are headed by a single person, much of our social activities are designed around people doing things as a couple or a group.  Dining out, going to movies, miniature golf and similar activities can cause people to take a second glance if you are alone  Fishing, for some reason, has often been a solitary activity.

Living single is not the idyllic notion of Thoreau’s Walden or the American western cowboy.  It is not better than living with others, it is an alternative.  It’s a great way of life, but not for everone and deserves careful self examination before taking it on.

Gardening Question: Fruit tree production

Why does my cherry tree bear wonderful fruit one year and nothing the next?

As a general rule, a fruit tree’s production depends on the overall health of the tree, its environment, its fruiting habit, the variety, the rootstock, adequate pollination, and good cultural practices. If just one of these conditions is off, the annual yield can be reduced or nonexistent. Apples are notorious for this kind of behavior. You may increase your chances of a good yield by early thinning of heavy fruit.

From The Old Farmer’s Almanac.

Autumn 2008

September 22 marks the autumnal equinox – the beginning of fall or autumn, depending on where you grew up.

There are several ideas of autumn: there is the astronomical notion, the time when the sun is aligned over the equator, typically on the 22 or 23rd of September each year.  There is the meterological autumn, which is September 1 – November 30.

On this day, the period of day and night are the same length.

Discovering your voice

As a media producer, I’ve spent a great deal of time helping other creative people “find their voice”.  I work to refine my own as well, but finding your voice is a freeing moment in creativity.  It’s the moment when, as a scholar, as a photographer, as a designer, and an author, you find the words that represent who you are, and not what others have put upon you.

A n 8 week old hen pheasant, with others in the background

An 8 week old hen pheasant, with others in the background

So if you are a pheasant chick, finding your voice means switching from the chick “cheep cheep cheep” to the cackle of a game bird.  This week, my birds began to find their voices.  I first heard it when I drove the truck by the pen — to be honest, I wasn’t sure if it was just the sound of an old truck, the the new found cackle of a young pheasant.  Tonight, I heard it again, and I suspect I’ll start hearing it regularly.

They are eight weeks old.

Radar Love? Here’s a software tool for weather radar

We’ve got a thing that’s called radar love
We’ve got a wave in the air, radar love.
-  Radar Love  – Golden Earring (Hay and Kooymans)

If you live in an partially off grid farm, or you dont have a television or get poor reception, keeping an eye on the weather can be a challenge.  But if you connect to the Internet, for examle by cell phone – data, or by satellite, there is a free tool that you may find helpful.

The Oklahoma Climatological Survey offers a free download software called Weather Scope.  Available for both Mac and Windows users, this software installs easily.  It takes little understanding to get it set up and working, but for instance, to view local weather radar from the National Weather Service,  simply chose the radar source from a state-sorted lists of National Weather Service radars.

The initial view include state borders, and not much more detail, but you can add urban areas, principal highways, county borders, and you can also download county roads for some locations.

Close up view showing couty road detail

Close up view showing county road detail

Weather Scope showing Iowa Radar and texas radars during Ike

Weather Scope showing Iowa Radar and Texas radars during Ike

My kingdom for a shed?

Rather than trading up, or building on, some home owners are staying put and adding a detached shed-as-living-space solution. Many farms have sheds for a number of animal uses that could be re-purposed into an office, craft room, study, or teen bedroom. Suddenly, the open lots of opportunities for living spaces as you review potential rural property for your move to small farm living.

If d-i-y (do it yourself) is n-4-u (not for you), a pre-fabricated shed can be an attractive way to live small or build on to your space.

Modern Shed, based out of Washington and featured in Sunset magazine and other media outlets has sheds ranging in concept and size from garden sheds to dwellings.

By coincidence or editing, two articles were forwarded from readers this week about smaller living and both, are from the New York Times.

One article by Michael Cannell of the Times says:

For certain buyers, the shed may be an outlet for baby boomer remorse. Encumbered by mortgages and 5,000-square-foot homes, some Americans of means are looking for ways to reconnect with lost values of simplicity, sustainability and forthrightness — values that seem to be embodied by the sheds’ basic materials and designs.

Parallel to Cannells article in the same week by Steven Kurutz, who quotes our neighbor in to the east in Iowa CIty, Gregory Paul Johnson:

Gregory Paul Johnson, a founder of the Small House Society in Iowa City, said that the notion of very small houses becoming popular was “an absurdity” five years ago. “But there are so many powerful forces at work right now,” he added, “like rising energy costs and the mortgage crisis. I think people want small homes because they cost less to purchase, maintain, heat.”

Some shed resources from Amazon – for both people and animals:

“Stylish Sheds and Elegant Hideaways: Big Ideas for Small Backyard Destinations” (Debra Prinzing)

The Cabin at Two Mile Ranch

Living small is not everyone’s dream, but it is mine.

The cabin at Two Mile Ranch could be considered a contradiction in that is is both large and small. It is built in the style of a dogtrot home and bisected with a 16 x 44 foot deck. If it were a rectangle and enclosed, the footprint would be 44 x 58 or 2500 square feet. But because of its design, the roofed area is only 14 x 24 on one side and 14 x 18 on the other. If you don’t count the central breezeway as enclosed space, the deck square footage is greater than the cabin square footage. Covered and heated living space is just 588 square feet.

Several architects and designers have made it a possible lifestyle for many. Visiting sites like Small House Style gives an overview of the wide variety of approaches to living in a smaller space.

The cabin at Two MIle Ranch has three origins for it’s design: It’s based loosley on an award winning design by Stephen Atkinson, and modified using plans from John Rabbe’s Country Plans. The third influence was my own design and innovation as a first-time builder.

As of this post, the cabin is 85% completed: I need to finish siding the east side, and put shakes on the north and south gables. The siding has been exposed to the weather to give it a little patina, I want to wash it and then seal/ stain it before winter. The last major project is insulating the ceiling and applying ceiling boards. A free standing heat stove and heater go in the big and little sides respectively, and then there is the final 5%: trim around all the windows, doors, and walls.

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